More and more I think that job interviews are like dating. You get all pretty, in an attempt to put your best foot forward. You are anxious, hoping they will like you - at times almost feeling like the puppy in the window with the "pick me, oh please pick me" eyes. Especially if it is a job you really want.
This week I had the honor of interviewing at the Palladium (http://www.thecenterfortheperformingarts.org/) in Carmel, Indiana. It is an incredible facility, and I really liked the folks I met who work there. From the little I saw of the community, I can really see myself there.
But I have to admit, after the past couple months, it is a little scary to think about relocating again, to an area where I have no one I really know, and no friends.
Starting a new job reminds me so much of the first day of school - you go in with all your shiny new supplied and new clothes that mom wouldn't let you wear until school actually started, just KNOWING that this year will be different. That this year I'll make new friends, and people will like me - sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.
Like dating, you never quite know what you're really getting into until you get into it. It seems wonderful, exciting, and exactly what you are looking for, a path into a whole new adventure in life. Then sometimes you get in there and discover that once you pass that seeming "point of no return", you're living with an active alcoholic who likes to be abusive at random times. It can be scary and really isolating - everyone around you just wants to see the pretty sparkly surface, and doesn't want to hear what may be beneath it. And those you try to get through to keep telling you "In this economy/At your age - you're best holding onto what you have - it's not as bad as you make it out to be." So maybe you stay, because you buy into that kind of scarcity thinking - or you stay because you just don't know what else to do.
Or maybe you let go of it all and step out into the great unknown, taking your chances. Maybe you end up with abuse, maybe you end up with dreams come true.
One thing is certain, however: nothing will change until you are willing to do something different.
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So very true - interesting correlation, there. It's a hard line to draw sometimes, I think, knowing when to walk away and when to stick something out - be it a romantic relationship or a job. Sometimes the answer is only clear upon reflection.
ReplyDeleteI hope that there is good news regarding the job in Indiana, though.